One Good Deed a Day
I try to do one good deed a day. Doing good deeds has never been a problem for me except that, in the past, I have tried to do too many good deeds. Seriously, in my mind, I was living a life where I tried to have a positive effect upon every person I'd meet.
There are pros and cons to living life like that. Pros include: good karma, moral confidence and self-improvement. The Cons include: frustration at others not reciprocating, others not trusting you because they doubt your good nature, people not liking you because you're just trying too hard, as well as a moral superiority complex.
So now, I limit myself to just one good day a day. And if other opportunities for a good deed present themselves, I'll just ignore them, unless I deem them truly worthy. Often, I spend my daily good deed on picking up some litter or giving a person praise. Sometimes, I go over my daily quota of one, and that's fine. What has happened is that now I'm more picky with my daily good deed; I like to make it count. Although I'm trying to cut back, I'm still doing little good deeds all the time. I guess I'm a deedaholic...lol.
Well, it's only 10:25 AM here in Denver and I already spent my good deed for the day, but I made it count. I was backing into a parking space that had good shade when I noticed a young lady, who appeared to be a worker on break, exit a nearby store and sit in t shade directly behind where my tail pipe would have been. So, I aborted my reverse into that space and parked in another about 50 feet away.
As I exited my vehicle I saw something that made me glad I didn't back up with my exhaust spraying at the young lady: she is very pregnant. So I went in the store I needed to shop at and emerged about 5 minutes later and entered my vehicle. But then I saw something that disturbed me not a little: the young pregnant lady was smoking a cigarette. I exited my vehicle and approached her with a plan to just chat, and perhaps subtly influence her to quit smoking.
I said hello and asked her i she was pregnant. She confirmed that, yes, she is pregnant. I told her I didn't have kids but that I may want some in the future. I was just trying to be sympathetic and friendly, not judgemental and insulting. I explained to her how I ended up here in Denver just 2 days ago, how I had been headed to Texas and had an epiphany and headed to Colorado instead.
I hope and pray she has an epiphany of her own and changes her course. I told her how I had to contact all the recruiters in Texas and tell them I'm sorry, but I'm in Colorado now, hoping she delivers a similar message to those of her crew who approve of or even tolerate her behavior. I told her I had just left Chicago, a place infamous for the indiscriminate killing of the youth by their own, hoping she sees the irony.
Her break was over. I walked her to her place of business and held the door open for her, wishing her good luck as I did so. I won't judge her. We all have done things which were extremely and seriously wrong. There are other addictions in life, such as ways of thinking, beliefs and poor self-image, which can also be terribly destructive to ourselves and our loved ones.
I wonder if future generations will look upon us all as we are currently taught to look upon those that lived during slavery, because of how we've destroyed our environment. I think overcoming shame and guilt is healthy, but the results of humans' often blatant disregard for facts, science, health and our environment will be catastrophic. Make a change. One person at a time.